79.6% of custodial mothers receive a support award.
29.9% of custodial fathers receive a support award.
26.9% of non-custodial fathers totally default on support.
46.9% of non-custodial mothers totally default on support. Meyer and Garansky, Technical Analysis Paper No. 42, US, Department of Health and Human Services, Office of Income Security Policy, 1991.
My ex-wife is gaming the system to try and get me to pay more.
I feel like I have been raped twice. Once when I lost my kids because of maternal bias by the judge (the court-appointed Custody Evaluator said the kids were better off with me, and the kids said they wanted to live with me. The Judge completely ignored both). And now a second time that I will give nearly 1/5th of my income to my ex-wife, whose standard of living (due to re-marriage) is already higher than mine, who will most likely use it to try and buy the kids’ affection, or increase her own standard of living.
I know this is nothing new. I know I am not unique in this complaint.
Perhaps the thing that bothers me the most about this is how vicious she is going after every cent, claiming righteously that I should support my children. But she didn’t pay even the court-ordered $50/month for more than two years after the divorce. She only paid when she was held in contempt for not paying. And when she did pay, it was at the $50/month she should pay as unemplyed, despite having been employed for well over a year at that point.
Why do I always lose?
I’m a damn good father, and I gave them a damn good life, and I get punished…and she gets rewarded for her treachery and dishonesty.
Now you can worry about me, but I’m sure I’ll be okay eventually.